The concept of self-worth sounds so simple but it's so much harder to implement it into our lives. It swings our ego from being content and happy to us wanting to change. There are plenty of things that affect the way that you look at yourself and some of them may not be good to your liking. Things that we see on social media dictates some false ideas and expectations on how we should look and act. This could be long journey into accepting into who we really are and how we could become a better person.
1. Your Accomplishments
Almost all of us can relate that if everything is going right in our lives we tend to value ourselves more than when things aren't doing well. When things didn't go as planned, this is when question our self-worth and creates doubts into our mind. Whether it be at school,
your work, or a sport, it’s easy to base your self-worth on your accomplishments. Remember, you're value does not depend on your accomplishments. Life is a competition, sometimes we won, sometime we lose and we can't control the outcome every time. What defines you is that, at the end of the day, you gave yourself your all, you gave yourself a chance to compete and do better.Try to remind yourself that your worth does not depend on your achievements. Especially when it comes to competitions, there are things and situations that are beyond your control, so you don’t need to blame yourself when things don’t go your way. You are not simply a bullet point from the list of all your accomplishments. You are a unique person with a personality, hobbies, and so much more than your achievements. These is where you self-worth lies.
2. Your Job And Your Earnings
There is no doubt that having a job is essential in order for us to live on this planet. The kind of job you have and the amount of money you're making doesn't define your self-worth. Society sometimes portray those who have lesser money is lesser worth than others. Sometimes your income and your job is not what you have always planned and is being dictated by your current situation. The amount you make is not indicative of your character and your importance.
3. Your childhood
Your childhood may shape us for the rest of our lives but this doesn't diminish your self-wroth. Even if we have a rough childhood, it doesn't have to represent you later in your life because all of us can change for the better. We don't the ability to choose our parents and alter their choices in life. You must always remember that your past doesn’t define you are.
4. Your Educational Attainment
Not all have access to proper education in some places. Maybe your family doesn't have enough money to send you to college. Sometimes it is beyond your means to get an education Therefore, you don’t need to be ashamed if you don’t have a higher level of education. Just because you didn't get the opportunity to go to school doesn’t mean you’re not intelligent or anything less than those educated people.
How many educated people have you met, who acts like a total jackass. Do they have value in their character?
5. How other people view and treat you
No other person in this world knows the real you except you. Though your family and friends might know a part of yourself, it is only you that understands your inner thinking and deepest thoughts.You can't control what other people think nor how they should act, so you can’t base your self-value upon something that's completely out of your control. You can't please everyone so try not to stress yourself out with other’s opinions because it will ultimately lead you to being miserable.
6. Other People’s Achievements
Have you ever compare your achievements to other
people’s? We tend to do that occasionally. It’s so
easy for us to look at what we’ve accomplished and compare it to someone else’s
achievements, especially when the social media gives you a view of someone’s amazing feats. It may be hard to get a grip of, but what
other people have done doesn’t define your value. There are things and situations in life that you cannot control, so the
only thing you can do is try your best every time. Whatever the results may be, trying
your best is enough. After all, everyone is given with different skill sets, experiences and situations, so you cannot compare two completely unique
people in different situations.
7. Your Appearance
Is there anything you wish you could change about how you look? Chances are, the answer is a resounding yes. Almost all of us wanted what someone else possesses, which is the sad truth, especially living in today’s society. It can be very tempting to compare yourself to other people and all the gorgeous models on Instagram but try to remember that your looks doesn’t determine your worth. It sounds cliche, and we find it difficult to accept and internalize it, but it’s true. You don’t need to feel bad because you might not look like the actors and actresses on Hollywood. We are obliquely created and everyone is beautiful in their own unique ways.
8. Your Relationship Status
In today's society, there is too much pressure to
have a significant other and be in a picture-perfect relationship. It forces you to constantly look for someone out of fear of being a
“lonely, single and unloved.” You must remember that there is nothing wrong with being
single. It doesn’t make you less of a person, it only means that you are
taking your time to focus on yourself first and your goals in life. While a
relationship is always awesone, it is not something you need to have your self worth.
9. The Number Of Friends You Have
Having a lot friends is not measuring stick of your self worth. If you are picky when it comes to friends it doesn’t mean that you’re unkind or worthless, it only means that you have a specific taste in people. You are invested in finding good and matured people who understands and cares about you. On the flip side, having lots of friends doesn’t mean that you’re shallow and only wants to become popular, it only shows that you’re friendly and more open in meeting new people. The number of friends you have has nothing to do about your self-worth; rather, it is the quality of friends is what really matters.
10. Your Status In Social Media
With large amounts of time spent on social media, the world seems to focus on how many likes you'll able to get. There is so much pressure for us to have the most picture-perfect, aesthetically pleasing appearance and lifestyle. However, your self worth can't be measure by how many people like your Facebook posts. Social media is for sharing parts of your life and forming connections with other people, so while getting likes may give you a bit satisfaction, it doesn’t determine your value. Social media should be fun and uplifting, not a tool to gain recognition. You are valuable regardless of your status in Social media.
11. Your age
Older and young people often judged each other because of their age. Older individuals may think that young people are reckless and selfish while all older people have their whole lives figured out. However, your age doesn’t reflect your personality, values, likes, dislikes, and so on. It is not a definition of who you are and your worth.
12. Your decision to have children
There’s a lot of pressure coming from our society that we need to have children, especially women. Having children is
can't be forced into you and you are entitled to make your own decision. Deciding not to have children doesn’t make you worth
less because it is a decision that will affect all aspects of your life, so it
should be your choice. Whether you have children or
not is something that only you can decide, and that decision is valid and
valued either way.
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