Undergoing the pain of breaking-up with the person that we love is truly one of the most painful experiences in life. Sometimes the best way in order to move on is doing the NO CONTACT RULE. For those who are not familiar with this, The no contact rule is where you don’t reach out to your ex whether on text, call or social media. This might also includes severing ties with your ex’s friends and family members.
The No Contact Rule works because it
allows you to focus on your grief without having to do any actions and further
aggravate your suffering by continually contacting our ex and trying to beg them to come back. Acknowledging that the relationship is over will allow you to release a huge
burden in your heart and gives the opportunity to create a space for someone new
to arrive in our life.
We tend to pretend to fantasize the
good things about our ex through rose colored glasses that forces us to keep on
communicating with them. Though it would give us a temporary relief from pain
that we are going thru it could harm us in the long run. Being on denial that
the relationship is over is not going to help you moving forward. Even though
it is hard, we must learn to live our lives without them being there. No contact can help you to transform your
pain into something more positive in the future.
Of course it would be very difficult
to block your ex from various social media platforms such as Instagram,
Snapchat Facebook etc., but it might be as well as the only cure for your
heartbreak and will keep you from contacting your ex ever again if your sole
purpose it to move on completely and avoid the dreaded let’s just be friend’s
speech.
Once you deleted their number and
blocked them on social media it might be tempting to find another way to
contact them such as returning their things or gifts they gave you or having to
talk about your pets if lived together. Just remember that during this time you
must face your thoughts and feelings instead of
avoiding it.
One of the many mistakes a person
could do during no contact is to set a timeline to which they feel that they
had moved on but in reality there is no exact time to force yourself to heal.
You must let yourself feel the pain and grief for as long as you stay away from
contacting your ex. You don’t need to lie about what you feel.
The No Contact Rule is not easy to do considering that you have built an emotional attachment to that person that you used or still loved. But as the saying goes time heals all wounds and you have plenty of time improve yourself and prepare for the next love of your life.
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