Having friends is very valuable. Having something someone to share a laugh with, a shoulder to cry on, or a support system when things aren't going good for you.
But how do you deal with someone who takes advantage of you and stabbing you behind your back?
Finding out that your friend isn't really a friend sucks ass but the reality is there's plenty of fake people out there who pretends to be your most loyal friend. It will save you a lot of heartache and disappointment if you can spot them early and avoid them like a plague by considering these suggestions:
Have A One on One Talk
The place and time of the conversation are very important. There must be some privacy for both of you to feel comfortable. Have a civilized conversation without being confrontational or angry. This will help ease any tensions that may arise during the talk.
If one of you gets emotional or angry, have a brief pause for at least five minutes. Treat each other with respect and avoid saying hurtful things that you will regret later on. Confronting the person whom you thought is a friend can be tough but it is necessary to clarify some things and give the person the opportunity to explain his side.
Keep Your Emotions In Check
Having a fake friend can throw you into a lot of negative emotions that can take its toll and spiral out of control, so its important to confront it as early as possible. Discovering that these supposed friend is saying bad things behind your back can really be upsetting.
Being calm, cool and collected is the best way to handle the negative thoughts and anger that you are experiencing right now. In the end, it is better to be calm and not do actions that we will regret later if we choose to succumb with our anger.
Stay Away From Emotional Blackmail
Emotional Blackmail is a form of manipulation to which an individual is using anger, make demands and threats to persuade you to do things in order get what they want. It is a means to control you and make you do things to benefit their own selfish needs.
If someone is blackmailing you emotionally, walk-away from the conversation and do not respond to messages or emails that are manipulative in nature.
Cut Ties With Them
You can't teach a snake loyalty. Sadly, having a fake friend is like having a cancer in your body. There is no option but to remove the person into your life or else it will ruin you. It is necessary for your well-being and peace of mind.
Delete their number and un-follow them on social media. These may seem harsh but the reality is, you need to put your own interest first before everyone else. If the friendship turn out to be a fraud whats the point of seeing their faces and activity on social media? If you want positivity in your life, don't let any negative people in, only keep people who genuinely cares for you.
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